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A Reader’s Review
By Kelly Benedict
WOW! What a blessing this book is!
Phil and his wife, Susy, live with their 6 children in
Chattanooga, TN. Having once been senior partner in a large
law firm, he is now president of CBMC (Christian Business
Men’s Committee). He is author of this wonderful book,
as well as the book, “Eternal Impact.”
We live in a day and age where dads are scarce, to non-existent,
in many family homes today. Oh, they may be there to “bring
home the bacon”, so-to-speak, but as far as being
involved in the upbringing of their children, so many husbands/dads
have taken a leave of absence from the raising of their
children. But do you know what? DADS MAKE A DIFFERENCE!
And guess what else? It is possible for fathers to discover
God’s will for their families! Every father is called
to get involved with his kids, even if he doesn’t
have a natural aptitude for it.
As Phil writes, “I became concerned about the development
of our kids spiritually, and I realized that they need me
to disciple them. I can’t just sit there and bark
orders to them and expect them to buy in to my ‘Christian
virtues.’ I need to get involved in their lives. If
I want to be with them, I need to offer some attraction
for them to be with me. I need something that pulls them
out of their peer group and makes them want to be with me
instead. That is where most men are struggling right now.
They come home tired, and the only time they spend with
their kids tends to be barking orders and instructions at
them over meals before they go with their friends, or when
they are trying to get their kids up in the morning. That
is not modeling your faith to your children, and discipline
without a strong personal relationship breeds rebellion.
One of the ways we dads provoke our children is by having
two standards. We expect them to be good and follow God,
but we claim the privilege of doing anything we want to
do. We need to live by the same rules we ask our children
to live by.”
There are some specific things that we need to do to help
our kids walk in the truth. We need to build a safe relationship,
work toward developing a peaceful home, develop their minds,
talk to them about purity, talk to them about money, let
them hear you say nice things to your wife, begin to build
a vision in them, and so forth. These are just a few things
that this book discusses.
To learn more about Phil Downer and the Discipleship Network
of America, you can visit them at: www.dnaministries.org.
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